Friday, 17 May 2013

Forgotten - and forgiven?

Some years ago my mother-in-law was visiting. She was living far away, so we only saw her a couple of times every year. She was then in her late 60’s but bright and intelligent and interested in everything going on in the world.
 
One wintry afternoon she went out into the garden through the kitchen door. Five minutes later she was knocking on the window pane of the patio door. I unlocked it to let her in. She was fuming with rage: “why do you lock me out in this terrible cold?”. I tried to explain that she had gone out through the kitchen door, which was still unlocked. She wasn’t convinced. We were not always on the best terms.
I forgot about the incident.
I didn’t see her for a long time. My wife worried about her. She was getting forgetful. Didn’t remember where she put things.
Then one day we went to see her. When she came down the stairs towards me, her arms wide open and a genuine, warm smile upon her face, saying: “I’m so happy to see you!”, I knew something was wrong.
When she then added: “What’s your name?”, I knew it was serious.
She was diagnosed with Alzheimer. I would prefer to have had an argument with her from time to time.

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